Ahmad was speechless one day when after giving his son a mouthful for coming home late that David uttered the ‘f’ word to him. Children today are exposed to all types of information and resources where swearing is involved. This is seen in movies, read in books and even heard in songs where the ‘F’ word and other vulgarities are used. To them, it sounded almost normal and common. So what should you do when your child starts swearing, which in our society is often associated with bad influences?
Take note that there is a time when a kid goes through the experimental age. This could range from practices (like smoking) to actions and in speech. Vulgar language is common in the more advanced countries as they are used all the time for expression of anger, a figure of speech and even in normal conversations. So how would you feel when your son suddenly puts in these words in his usual conversation with you?
To begin with, you have to lead by example. This means that you should stop using the words in front of your kid. By not using them, he will wonder why and perhaps follow in your footsteps. After all, you do not want him to tell you that ‘I was only following daddy’.
Secondly, take note of how often he uses those words. Check and see when he uses them. If he uses them deliberately, then perhaps he just want to ‘be cool’ like those characters on television or in music. But if it has become quiet natural, then perhaps it is time that you accept the fact that your son uses vulgar words in his everyday conversation. In this situation, you will have to hope that he know when he should not.
Every once a while, we will swear when we are angry so it is perfectly fine for anyone else to do it. If you do not want your child to do it, then make sure you watch what you say, even when you are extremely angry. However, if it has come to a point where he uses it all the time, then it is high time you advise him about when is the appropriate time to refrain from doing so. Sometimes, the kids want to tell you something and are just begging for your attention. Perhaps it is time to drop what you are doing and spend more time with them.